H-S-D > High Speed Divorce...
YES - it can go pretty much fast, if you really want it (she). I got the invite from the court to show up on Feb. 15th - will take 30 minutes... impressed how fast you can get divorced in this country (within 5 weeks everything completed).
This weekend is the "boxing" day, a bit different than in the UK, as this is not unpacking presents - its more packing stuff and moving out - she, not me.
Its getting cooler every day a bit more, the first calls after she left were still somehow nice but now its more and more like talking to someone you do not like anymore and the tone is getting tougher day by day.
On the other side, I am getting a bit under stress now - is it because I am looking for that or is it because I was not able to manage my own life in the past as someone managed every free minute after work. Meeting, Dining, Dating, Chatting, Working - all makes much more fun now.
I have to take care that I do not get exhausted too quick - but it really makes fun now.
After Tuesday next week there will not be any personal memory left in my flat from her and this is the day to start a new life. I will have Dinner with friends and have some fun, I will blow up with some little bombs the top part of the weeding cake that I kept in the deep freeze since 070707 - that will make some fun I guess...
Coming back when I got some good news...
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
The end of something that started with so much love...
Today the official documents were handed in from her (at least I trust she did)... now I am waiting until I get the invitation for the hearing at the court. This will then be the last step of a long story with lot's of nice memories in the first 11,5 years. But for my own sake i should forget these and just look forward.
Now trying to get a new flat which would better serve my needs and would save some unnecessary expenses even I got in love with this flat. But you can never have all you want if you have external factors that are out of your control.
Moving to Geneva is something that I do not really prefer but you never know - at the moment I just want to live my life to full extend.
I was not aware of all the beauties around me, everyone introducing someone to me in these days, which makes me happy to be honest but taking a decision is not that easy - I think I am not ready to take a decision yet but I will spend my time with some of them until I am pretty sure...
By the way, if anyone knows someone who has a proper sized flat of about 80-100m², 2 -3 rooms (living room should be connected to kitchen and of 35m² at least), bedroom and maybe a small office/guestroom and ideally with a terrace for a max. rent of 1.200 - post me a message!
I wish you all the best, take care in the meantime until I get back with some better news...
Today the official documents were handed in from her (at least I trust she did)... now I am waiting until I get the invitation for the hearing at the court. This will then be the last step of a long story with lot's of nice memories in the first 11,5 years. But for my own sake i should forget these and just look forward.
Now trying to get a new flat which would better serve my needs and would save some unnecessary expenses even I got in love with this flat. But you can never have all you want if you have external factors that are out of your control.
Moving to Geneva is something that I do not really prefer but you never know - at the moment I just want to live my life to full extend.
I was not aware of all the beauties around me, everyone introducing someone to me in these days, which makes me happy to be honest but taking a decision is not that easy - I think I am not ready to take a decision yet but I will spend my time with some of them until I am pretty sure...
By the way, if anyone knows someone who has a proper sized flat of about 80-100m², 2 -3 rooms (living room should be connected to kitchen and of 35m² at least), bedroom and maybe a small office/guestroom and ideally with a terrace for a max. rent of 1.200 - post me a message!
I wish you all the best, take care in the meantime until I get back with some better news...
Friday, January 8, 2010
So - continuing the story about relationships...
as it happens in 98% of the cases, when she asks for an off-time and leaves "home", she never comes back again - which is now proven again...
Women hide a long time and take actions once they have made up their own mind, and this can be already a long time ago and you not even have a clue about this. None of your friends (exceptions are for sure there; but they do not interfere in a positive way) sees or feels something and it get's even worse - you yourself do not see what is happening right in front of you. This is not because you are so stupid or blind due to real love (?) it's more that she has learned in the meantime to play a perfect role towards husband, family and friends.
But as also in 90% of the cases, they run from one relationship directly in a new one which seems to be the perfect solution but these do not last for long. Daily routines that you were used to turn out to be much more difficult to continue in the new one, likes and dislikes turn out a bit too late, and once this ends up in a way where you think it was not the right decision afterwards you start thinking of the past.
And then - this is the time when she falls into the depression and starts asking herself "WHY". If she can answer herself this question it might help but it will be too late. Too much broken, too much lost, too much happend ... it's nothing where glue helps...
Now I am looking forward and try to sort out my own life - look for a new flat, new adventures, new friends on top of the ones who stayed with me and who knows - there are some many nice girls who have great personality, are beautiful, persons on whom you can rely on... I do only need to learn again to trust - thats a big challenge.
And - if you need tips to save your relationship - first be sure that she has not already started a parallel new life with someone new - there are a few things to consider and follow (hard stuff but this will help in 75% of the cases I assume), I am here to help you.
And for those who are still in a relationship - talk to each other, love yourself and her/him, and never forget why you fell together in love...
Take care!
as it happens in 98% of the cases, when she asks for an off-time and leaves "home", she never comes back again - which is now proven again...
Women hide a long time and take actions once they have made up their own mind, and this can be already a long time ago and you not even have a clue about this. None of your friends (exceptions are for sure there; but they do not interfere in a positive way) sees or feels something and it get's even worse - you yourself do not see what is happening right in front of you. This is not because you are so stupid or blind due to real love (?) it's more that she has learned in the meantime to play a perfect role towards husband, family and friends.
But as also in 90% of the cases, they run from one relationship directly in a new one which seems to be the perfect solution but these do not last for long. Daily routines that you were used to turn out to be much more difficult to continue in the new one, likes and dislikes turn out a bit too late, and once this ends up in a way where you think it was not the right decision afterwards you start thinking of the past.
And then - this is the time when she falls into the depression and starts asking herself "WHY". If she can answer herself this question it might help but it will be too late. Too much broken, too much lost, too much happend ... it's nothing where glue helps...
Now I am looking forward and try to sort out my own life - look for a new flat, new adventures, new friends on top of the ones who stayed with me and who knows - there are some many nice girls who have great personality, are beautiful, persons on whom you can rely on... I do only need to learn again to trust - thats a big challenge.
And - if you need tips to save your relationship - first be sure that she has not already started a parallel new life with someone new - there are a few things to consider and follow (hard stuff but this will help in 75% of the cases I assume), I am here to help you.
And for those who are still in a relationship - talk to each other, love yourself and her/him, and never forget why you fell together in love...
Take care!
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